Valentines Day is just two days away, can you believe it?! I know it may not be super exciting for everyone, but I LOVE it! It’s always been one of my absolute favorite Holidays. I think it’s because it’s such a happy holiday, it’s all about LOVE. I just love, love and everything hearts ♥♥♥!
Have you ever wondered if there are other ways you might be able to say “I Love You” to someone with out actually just saying it? Or maybe there are ways you used to say “I love you” to your loved ones that have dropped off and are worth bringing back? I’ve noticed with my husband and kids, that while hearing it all of the time is nice, when I do something different that makes them feel really loved, in a new way, it seems to fill them up so much more. So this brought me to wanting to share ‘7 Ways to Say I love you’!
- Show Appreciation– This is definitely one of Matt’s main love languages (if you don’t know what love languages are, you can find it here.) It’s also my oldest son Austin’s main love language. When I really make it a point to tell them how thankful I am for them and what they have done/do, or how proud I am of them, they just light up. Matt does so much for our family every single day and I need to remind myself to make it a priority to let him know how much I really appreciate him and all he does. Austin struggles in school and I want him to know that I appreciate who he is and that I’m proud of him no matter how he is doing in school, and that my love isn’t based on just good works.
- Surprises – All of my kids love surprises, especially my daughter EllaBleu. When she comes home and there’s something (big or little) I’ve picked up for her, she is so filled up with love. It’s funny how sometimes just a little trinket can make her feel like a million bucks! Sometimes I’ll randomly get Matt a sweet card and put it on his nightstand just as a reminder of how much I love him and that I was thinking of him. But what really gets him excited is when I surprise him with a weekend away, just the two of us, or even just a date night. It helps him to realize that our marriage is a priority to me.
- Affection – I know this is easy for a lot of people, but honestly, it’s not that easy for me. It’s easy for me to love and hug and kiss on Hudson, because he’s little and SO cute! But sometimes I forget how much my older kids and my husband need that affection too. I get distracted easily and caught up in what ever is going on, but I need to remember that sometimes a random hug and kiss says a lot to my loved ones!
- Love Letter – Have you ever written your loved ones a love letter? This isn’t just for your boyfriend, husband, etc, but this goes for any important somebody in your life, like you’re parents, children, best friend… you get the point? Writing a love letter telling them in detail WHY you love them or how much you love them and appreciate them is such a great way to express your feelings, especially if it’s hard for you to say it in person. When I tell my kids how proud I am of them or how much I love them, it’s often followed up with the question “why?”. They want to know why I love them, what it is about them that I love and appreciate. Also, when we have something tangible, like a book or note to read, it seems to stick better. I save a lot of my birthday, anniversary and Valentines cards because I love going back and reading them. And when I randomly stumble across them in a drawer it makes my day! A few years ago when Matt and I were in a small Christian group with some other couples and the leader of our group challenged us to write a ‘lovey’ sticky note and leave it somewhere, our spouse would find. We did this every day for at least a month and it was so fun, I still have all of them saved. Of course we were pretty much newlyweds when we did this and we were still in that lovey dovey I’ll do anything because I love everything about you stage, so it was easy. But now that we’re passed that and we have to fight for our time alone together, in between our 3 year old and 3 older kids, it would be fun to do again. If you can’t write a love letter, try writing a few sticky notes of sweet, kind words and leave it on their bathroom mirror or somewhere where it would be easy to find.
- Pray Together – So this is something that most couples I know do NOT do… We understand that praying with your spouse and even sometimes with your kids can be awkward and vulnerable, but it is SO powerful. I saw a poll somewhere that said more people believe in God than not, which was so encouraging to me! You don’t have to go to church (we don’t go very often) to pray. You don’t have to be “perfect” to pray to God and have a relationship with Him, and you certainly don’t need to be any of those things to sit and pray with your souse. So many people that we know have never prayed with their spouse and I totally understand why, but I truly feel like they missing out on something SO amazing. I can honestly say that when Matt and I pray together, we are closer than ever. We don’t pray together every day, and there are seasons in our life and marriage where praying together is really difficult, but when we let our guards down and come together in prayer, it’s incredible. We become closer and just seem to be more in-sync with each other. We do pray together with our kids almost every night when we’re all home. They typically complain about it and it usually takes us 10 minutes to get them all together, which is SUPER annoying, but then we hold hands, take a breath and focus on what we are grateful for and pray for the people in our lives, people struggling in this world and those who need our loving thoughts and prayers. Praying together takes the focus off of our worldly distractions and brings us closer to God.
- Take One for the Team – This might be a sticky one… When Hudson was a newborn, I was a train wreck! My hormones were really off, I was foggy brained and obviously sleep deprived. All I needed was rest. Not just sleep rest, but mom rest. Sometimes it takes a total breakdown for husbands to see that we need help, but when Matt would recognize that I needed a break, he was there to figure it out. Whether it was getting up with Hudson, cooking dinner or just completely taking over with the older kids, it made me feel loved and appreciated and sends out an “I love you” message. Acts of service like this speak wonders to our loved ones! Hudson still wakes up in the middle of the night periodically and Matt is usually the one getting up with him. I sometimes get to sleep later than him and he knows how much I NEED my sleep, so he “takes one for the team” and gets up with Hudson. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this! And don’t get me wrong, I take one for the team often times too! 😉
- Focused Attention – This is a big one, and the one that seems to be so hard to make a priority with all of the electronics and other distractions we have in our lives these days. This is my step son Grayson’s top love language (actually all of our kids top love language now that I think of it) and it also happens to be one of mine. When Grayson and I are alone together we have a blast. We smile a lot, get silly, laugh, hang out, roam around and appreciate the love we have for each other. It fills up both of our cups, and it’s such a special time for the both of us. When Matt and I are alone, which isn’t that often, and I’m not blogging and he is not having to deal with work stuff, we rekindle that “gaze into each others eyes” feeling, and fall for each other all over again…. HAHA! Just kidding! But we do chat and laugh and just catch up. We love and cherish simple times together, walking, talking, laughing, eating, bike riding and shopping ♥! It really doesn’t seem to matter what we are doing, or where we are, when we are alone and focussed on each other we have so much fun and we feel the love 😉
As I’ve been writing this, so many more ideas came to me but I feel these are realistic and something we can all take a few minutes out of our day to do. I hope this post has inspired or reminded you of ways you can express your love to your loved ones with out just saying it. I wish you all a wonderful Valentines Day filled with lots of ♥!