Ok ladies, lets talk HAIR!! One of the best accessories we have. Alright, let me re-phrase that, the MOST IMPORTANT accessory we have! No matter how good your makeup looks, if you’re hating your hair, you’re hating your life. On a bad hair morning, don’t you just want to shampoo it out and start all over? I’ve done it a lot, especially if I use the wrong hair product or put WAY too much in. Yep, it happens to all of us. But we don’t always have time to start over, and that’s when our day goes to hell in a hand basket… Your co workers are wondering what crawled up your butt, your husband doesn’t understand why you all of the sudden hate him, your house, your car and everything in your life, your kids don’t understand why you didn’t want to walk them into school that morning… And when you picked them up you drove off with one of there legs still hanging out the door because you were in such hurry to get the hell out of there before someone saw you?! Ya, it all started with that bad hair day. I get it. And that’s why I went to school, to help women like you and I make sure we can handle these hairs!
Let’s cut to the chase. I was getting my hair cut this morning and while I was telling my stylist (Jenny Bacon at Nyla D) how and when and where to cut every single piece of hair that’s on my head (no joke, I am super controlling when it comes to my hair, and it’s OK!), I realized from my years of experience of doing hair and being a client myself, there are some (or a lot of) women out there who really need to know how to communicate with their stylist in an effective way. Because we have ALL left the beauty shop feeling like either A. there’s no way I can style my hair like this and it sucks or B. this is NOT the hair style I wanted. Trust me, as a stylist I would much rather give you tips on how to style your hair in a practical way, instead of you leaving un-happy because I didn’t understand what you really wanted and I just cut a million layers into your hair when all you wanted was BANGS! So here are some tips on how to communicate with your stylist:
- Bring in a picture. It gives us a great visual on what you are wanting. Now remember, there are times when the person in the picture has completely different hair than you; texture, density, length, color etc.
- Explain to your stylist how you style your hair, whether all you know how to do is blow dry it upside down or just wash and go. It gives us an idea on how we can help you achieve the look you are going for but still be realistic with what you can do.
- What products do you use? Bring them in and show your stylist, it’s another great way for us to understand what’s going in your hair. It can also drastically affect the way your color turns out and the longevity of your hair service.
- Whatever you do…. DO NOT CUT YOUR OWN HAIR!
- Tell your stylist what you like about your last haircut or color, and also tell them what you may not have liked about it. Try and be specific, we don’t always remember exactly everything about every haircut we do.
- Be open to feedback. Most stylists are trained to know, and even have some books available to look at, on what styles look good on what face shapes. And more importantly, some (hopefully all) can look at you and visualize what will work with your hair and look the best on you, and it may not be anything like what you had in mind. But hear them out.
- Don’t get an emotional haircut. Seriously, I can’t stress this enough! For example: if you are hormonal, just had a baby, just got married, just went through a break up, got in a fight with a family member or went ballistic on your hubby, DON’T cut your hair off, color it purple, shave it off, cut your bangs to your hair line, or do anything else that’s a drastic change from what you currently have. Trust me on this.
In my early days of doing hair, I had a woman who had just had a baby and recently went back to work come in, sit in my chair and tell me she wanted ‘a change’. HORMONAL RED FLAG! I really wish someone would have warned me of these ’emotional cutters’ before this experience but any who, she had long, thick, blonde, naturally wavy hair and she sat in my chair and said, “I want my hair just like yours”. At that time, I had a short, almost black, pixie… PERFECT. One short drastic hair change coming your way! 3 hours and one super cute, and SUPER short, new hair style later we were done (we didn’t go drastic with her color THANK GOD). She seemed really happy and I was relieved that was over. Fast forward a couple of weeks and through the grapevine (we live in a small town full of hair stylists) I had heard she went into another salon in town and said “some chic at Nyla D named Audrey chopped ALL of my hair off!” … I’m sorry, WHAT DID YOU CALL ME?! I never saw her again and trust me, I can smell those ’emotional cutters’ from the second they walk through the door. Please learn from my (and clearly her) mistake!
Also, just like when an artist paints the same picture a thousand times, each one is always a little different, our hair system services will never 100% be the exact same every single time! We are artists too 😉
I hope this can help you communicate with your hair stylist so that you’re always lovin your hair!