Ok, this title really sounds like a constipation commercial, haha! But…..I unplugged!!… for like 2 days! And by unplugged, I mean I only looked at IG maybe 5 times the entire weekend, and it was barely 3-5 minutes each time…. You guys, this is HUGE. Ok, that may be a bit dramatic but it was really refreshing and honestly, I didn’t REALLY miss it. Just a few months ago I was trying to juggle my blog, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and Snap Chat, and I was really bad at it all! I, for one, do NOT understand Twitter, Facebook drives me crazy and I often forget about Snap Chat (I still have it but rarely use it). After the election and all of the drama on Facebook, I was cooked. It made me so sad to see and hear people tearing each other apart for not agreeing with them politically, I was left wondering “what has happened to our country?” That’s when I realized the only social media I can really keep up with, and want to, is Instagram. I love looking at pictures and I find that photographs are such a great way to share and express ourselves, it’s also such a great creative outlet for my passion for fashion. (I am aware of the negativity on IG as well, but it seems less saturated with it)
As I sit here typing and reflecting on our busy weekend (bowl of cereal in hand), I can’t help but think I need to “unplug” more often. Instead of my focus being on Instagram engagement and what I’m going to post next, I was spending quality time with my family. Grayson had a soccer game in the morning and evening. and in between those, EllaBleu had 3 volleyball games. And guess what?! I was present, not just physically, but mentally. I wanted to see what it would be like to really just take a breathe and not think about what’s going on anywhere but where I was at. It was such a healthy decision!
Here are a few things I realized this weekend while I unplugged:
- Being present with my family is more healing than I thought. The quality time talking and focused attention on our kids during dinner and through out the day(s) made me realize how it can actually heal our relationships. EB and I tend to argue a lot (she is 13 and claims I can be the meanest mom in the world) and what she wants and needs most right now is my time; that focused time and attention heals our relationship in a lot of ways.
- My husband felt important. I try and make it a point to let my husband know on a regular basis how much I love and appreciate him, but there are a lot of times that I forget. And lets be honest, it’s not always easy to say 😉 But having my direct attention this weekend in the car, at dinner and in bed, instead of me being on my phone and computer, told him how important he is to me. And I didn’t even need to say it!
- Life goes on, and it’s OK! Life goes on inside of social media with our with out me. When I started my blog, of course I wanted followers and people to see and like my content, but my sole purpose was not to win a popularity contest. Unfortunately it’s really easy to fall into the trap of more more more, but what really matters isn’t how many followers I have or whether or not I’m making a fortune, what’s important to me is helping people, whether it’s through fashion or my Sunday Seven. If I’m helping even 1 person in this world, that’s an accomplishment! But it’s not an accomplishment when it’s at the expense of my family. Social media will always be there, it will always be growing and people move on from one photo to the next, with or with out me. Don’t get me wrong, I love being on there and don’t like missing out on anything, but it’s also ok if I do. I realized life online went on with out me and my family got the best part of me, instead of the tired unfocused mom/wife.
I can’t honestly say that I unplugged from EVERYTHING. I caught myself on Nordstom.com last night and I felt horrible. Matt was at Graysons late soccer game and I was at the hotel with Hudson. He was running around and I was looking for a cute dress to wear to an upcoming event. I wish I realized it sooner than I did and before I knew it Hudson was fast asleep next to me. Total mom guilt set in and I wanted to cry! (At least I didn’t buy anything!) This is exactly what I wasn’t going to do. I’m glad I recognized it and hopefully the next time it happens I will be able to remember that time and just shut it down a lot sooner. A goal I’m setting for myself is to be more intentional with my time, my time with my kids, my husband, my blog, and my clients etc.
I’d love to hear how you unplug! Is it unplugging from social media, the internet or something else? Comment hear or let me know on IG, I will ALWAYS respond! 😉
Now I’m off to watch Nemo with Hudson… and finish my cereal (I have an addiction) 😉
Thanks for stopping bye!
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